Dealing With Conflict
Lucy is a mother of three grown up children. Recently, she’s been involved in an ongoing conflict that’s triggered some of her old trauma’s and patterns of stress. She’s been reluctant to express her point of view for fear of upsetting other family members (who seem oblivious to the stress it’s causing her).
As we looked more closely at ways in which Lucy could address the conflict, it became clear that she was holding a number of self limiting thoughts that were hindering her ability to express herself clearly, without becoming defensive and emotionally charged. But what was it that Lucy was defending?
Unresolved feelings of deep insecurity, low self worth and frustration were continuing to rule her world. These were not only affecting Lucy’s current ability to calmly and openly express herself, but had been negatively impacting the majority of her close family relationships, and limiting her sense of fulfilment.
Once Lucy was able to more clearly differentiate the elements that were repeatedly causing so much disruption, she was able to take ownership of her responsibility in resolving her inner conflict and building up her self worth.
After guiding Lucy through a series of exercises and action steps to positively build on her self image, she was able to begin letting go of her life long negative self view. Not only was Lucy then able to start enjoying improvements in her personal relationships in more meaningful ways, she was experiencing a growing sense of fulfilment.